Does Your Mind Do This Too? | 10 Toxic Thought Patterns

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I’ve officially started therapy. That’s not easy to admit, which is why I want to continue working to de-stigmatize mental health care. Treating our minds is just as important as treating our bodies, so if you or a loved one is in need of resources for mental health care, please visit the National Alliance On Mental Illness:

To that end, I decided to explain what are known as the 10 Cognitive Distortions. These are lenses in which we view and analyze the world that commonly lead to inaccurate, toxic, and dangerous thoughts. Jumping to conclusions, over-generalization, discounting the positive… all examples of distortions that twist the reality of what you’re receiving. These occur with major life events like break ups/heartbreak/divorce or losing a job, as well as everyday occurrences like traffic or getting snubbed on the street. Knowledge is power, and with an understanding of these 10 things, hopefully you’ll be prepared to fend off the distortions when they inevitably present themselves.

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0:00 Therapy/Intro
0:32 All or Nothing Thinking
1:01 Overgeneralizing
1:27 Labeling
2:06 Mental Filters
2:40 Jumping to Conclusions
3:09 Magnification
3:49 Emotional Reasoning
5:25 Should Statements
5:53 Personalization and Blame
6:23 Discounting the Positive


  1. •MOARMYTINY dna runs in my blood•

    •MOARMYTINY dna runs in my blood•

    Tunti sitten

    This was helpful for me as a person who wants to learn about psychology and become a psychologist. Thank you Dr.Mike.

  2. Riya Thakuria

    Riya Thakuria

    8 tuntia sitten

    I'm going to therapy too and Cognitive behaviour therapy has really helped me

  3. Kate Linnett

    Kate Linnett

    Päivä sitten

    I'm saving this one to rewatch whenever I need to give myself a mental slap on the back of the head.

  4. then alright

    then alright

    Päivä sitten

    im a kid so it doesnt really helpful for me now

  5. Faith Igosangwa

    Faith Igosangwa

    Päivä sitten

    In the comments section to look for a summary.

  6. Dory Briyanne

    Dory Briyanne

    Päivä sitten

    The people who even dislike the videos are they normal?

  7. Dglas Raeat

    Dglas Raeat

    Päivä sitten

    I have a catastrophic hatred of advertising in You Tube videos, but is it an irrational hatred? Let's ask Doctor Mike? Am I going to be ambushed by advertising at some random point in this vi FUUUUUUUUU!!!

  8. Fabian T.

    Fabian T.

    2 päivää sitten

    Don't antagonize yourself, you are not your own worst enemy! On the contrary, you are your *greatest* *ally* in disguise, so give yourself a chance.

  9. Lila Belkacem

    Lila Belkacem

    2 päivää sitten

    Thank you for this video from Algeria 🇩🇿, north Africa 😊

  10. Kamla Anand

    Kamla Anand

    2 päivää sitten

    I've heard someone say that she likes to go to a therapy session once a year even though she doesn't struggle with mental illness or have challenges in her life that she can't handle. She considers it a mental health check-up that is just as important as going in for a dental cleaning or a physical.

  11. A Ra A ra

    A Ra A ra

    2 päivää sitten


  12. Gryphonzwing


    3 päivää sitten

    I do a lot of these way too often.

  13. Raika Resha

    Raika Resha

    3 päivää sitten

    oh my god, this like just the same as stoicism! As a 15 years old girl, one of my awesome teacher told me to read or learn about stoicism. No, I'm not a stoic, but I'm trying to get better and better with the guide of stoicism! I really recommend it, but also try to find the 'easy' one.

  14. kid scary

    kid scary

    4 päivää sitten

    Please Read mine, I made in comments below. Much thought

  15. Satish Dwivedi

    Satish Dwivedi

    4 päivää sitten

    Read 'feeling good' all these mental distortions are mentioned there and steps you can take to over come depression and anxiety. It's a good book. Be happy❣️❣️

  16. sadunlap


    4 päivää sitten

    I've been thinking lately that a lot of people at work treat staff meetings as group therapy. Maybe we should have group therapy on work time, run by a trained professional therapist. It would help everyone and make staff meetings more productive. It's painfully obvious people need this. Remove the stigma. Maybe everyone needs therapy to some extent?

  17. Megan Bakstad

    Megan Bakstad

    4 päivää sitten

    The fact that I have all of these.. oof 😅

  18. Ted


    4 päivää sitten

    I like how he says there's no ads in skillshare in his ad

  19. jessica castro

    jessica castro

    4 päivää sitten

    Hi everyone

  20. Lacey Moore

    Lacey Moore

    5 päivää sitten

    I literally saw a spider in the bathtub this morning and freaked out lol. Thank you so much for this video. This information really helps me rationalize my thoughts so I stay in a much better mood

  21. Adrick Hunter

    Adrick Hunter

    5 päivää sitten

    I've noticed a lot of these points are emotionally driven, but what about lack of emotion? Could you do a series about how suppressing your emotions can also be toxic? Your last point seemed to point towards something of that sort, because none of the others related to me.

  22. Kathryn Häusle

    Kathryn Häusle

    6 päivää sitten

    Dr Mike, how does PTSD/CPTSD affect the body physically? I've recently been diagnosed and just wonder about what the stress is doing to my body.

  23. weedchild


    6 päivää sitten

    simply wholesome

  24. nathaniel suinan

    nathaniel suinan

    6 päivää sitten

    Thanks for sharing this, empowering and very realistic in approach. Stay awesome Doctor Mike!

  25. Angela Brown

    Angela Brown

    6 päivää sitten

    Thank you for being so transparent! This was very helpful!

  26. Agent Texas

    Agent Texas

    6 päivää sitten

    5:52 - 6:23 I should’ve woken up earlier than hit snooze.

  27. Renee Homen

    Renee Homen

    6 päivää sitten

    Good for you Dr. Mike. 👍 I was in therapy for a year for PTSD and it saved my life.

  28. Maria Luiza

    Maria Luiza

    6 päivää sitten

    So necessary!!!

  29. Stacey E

    Stacey E

    6 päivää sitten

    I'm not normally victim to some of these for 29 days of every month, but I swear, for one or two days about 2-5 days before a period, something really distorted happens, and it freaks me out. After my period starts, though... It's like it never happened, thankfully. But, for those 24-48 hours, I'm a mess. I don't even recognize myself. I get super quiet and dive right down into my own dark self. I barely talk to my husband in that time. I don't think he's ever noticed either, tbh. LOL

  30. Avelino Montillano

    Avelino Montillano

    6 päivää sitten

    I like the video including your pink eye shadow doc... 😊😘

  31. Brian Parrott

    Brian Parrott

    7 päivää sitten


  32. domo mitsune

    domo mitsune

    7 päivää sitten

    The biggest thought pattern people have that is destructive, people think they have free will and their decisions were Theirs to make. The brain automatically makes decisions on your behalf, and before you realizing it your body's already going through the motions. Like when people say, their body moves on their own, and they were just a spectator. If a person takes responsibility for unconscious decisions, they're considered sane and responsible for those actions. If a person does not take responsibility for their subconscious decisions, they're labeled insane or having mental illness. Who is right, and who is perceiving reality for what it really is?

  33. Aleksandra Romanova

    Aleksandra Romanova

    7 päivää sitten

    I'm a lump of grey in a grey world where nobody needs me except for the mother who gave birth to me basically to have an emotional crutch. These thoughts may be destructive, but sometimes they are just true.

  34. Taynah Ibanez

    Taynah Ibanez

    7 päivää sitten

    Therapist: "be kinder to yourself" Friends: "be kinder to yourself" Dr.Mike: "Be kinder to yourself" Me: *confusion*

    • Kamla Anand

      Kamla Anand

      2 päivää sitten

      You gotta keep surrounding yourself with the positive message until you begin to really believe it. Treat yourself with the same compassion and empathy you afford others. BE KINDER TO YOURSELF.

    • Esther


      6 päivää sitten

      Same. Brain go brrrrr.

  35. Karis Majik

    Karis Majik

    7 päivää sitten

    Pure failure? No, I couldn't be that good at anything..

  36. Randy Bobandy

    Randy Bobandy

    8 päivää sitten

    I had to see a handful of therapists while in the military and unfortunately they’re generally not very effective. I’ve known countless others who had the same issue. Therapy can help you short term getting over certain hurtles, but it doesn’t seem to do much for your overall mental health. Hope the fields improve going forward.

  37. Mentalhealth KE

    Mentalhealth KE

    8 päivää sitten

    That spider low key giving me anxiety..

  38. Alyssa Bennett

    Alyssa Bennett

    8 päivää sitten

    This video was making me feel so much better about myself until you added that clip of a spider crawling across the screen. I almost broke my phone!! 😩

  39. Bethicia Prasek

    Bethicia Prasek

    8 päivää sitten

    Long time ago I had a life experience that most people would call traumatic. I tried a few therapists, but I need practical solutions as well as help with the mental impact. I remember being asked what I wanted to accomplish in therapy by one counselor. I told them that I wanted to pay my bills on time. Money was tight, but that wasn't the main reason. I just didn't need another thing to worry about. They responded that they didn't know how they could help me with that. Didn't last long. Some are more helpful than others. You want to find a good match, and I have found a couple through the years which were great for me at the time. Not too long ago I started seeing one I used to visit. Tired, run down, wanting to accomplish too much and accomplishing too little. I visited for a while but decided I needed to make more of a difference in my life. Food, exercise, more daylight. Prioritizing. So I moved to a career/life coach. Unfortunately not something insurance covers even partially. Been focusing a lot on eating more, exercising (at least walking), taking D3 and B12, getting help with housework so I can focus on other things. Working towards my PMP again. If I cannot accomplish my goals each day, at least I am tracking what I have accomplished. One thing I didn't prioritize but will get done before the end of September is an annual physical with bloodwork focusing on some issues I get at least seasonally, SADD, D3 deficiency, B-12 deficiency, pollen allergies and GERD that make it difficult to eat without vomiting when it gets bad. Just as emotions can impact physical health, physical illnesses can impact emotional health. Thanks Doctor Mike. It isn't easy to share, but it helps others who may feel very alone.

  40. chelsearoses22


    8 päivää sitten

    Another toxic thought is on social media, if a person just likes a post. Some people, and I've done it, can't help but think about why did they only like it? Why didn't they comment if the post was a serious post or an emotional post? If I ask for people's opinions on something and they like the post, they clearly saw the post and liked it then why didn't they comment? Or If I texted or messaged a person and they saw it why didn't they respond in my time when I wanted them to? I saw this person post something to their Instagram story or it says their "online" but why won't they respond? We don't owe everyone all of our time or to respond to serious things in their time. Sure it would be nice, it might be appropriate, sometimes I want to wait until I'm sitting down or at home to respond to serious messages or think about how I want to respond. But I might casually scroll on Instagram for a few moments before doing that. I don't know, just another thought

  41. Arnav Chawla

    Arnav Chawla

    9 päivää sitten

    doctor mike you said getting happy about one's achievements is not being arrogant. Can you explain the difference between being arrogant and being happy?

  42. QuestionEverything


    9 päivää sitten

    Einstein failed his first entrance exam into college! (Due to weaker scores in language type subjects) But tried again the next year and got in:)

  43. Trout Stalker Plus

    Trout Stalker Plus

    9 päivää sitten

    Dude this is like the only channel I watch and I want to be in the medical field now

  44. Daniel


    10 päivää sitten

    Thank you for this; this is very useful! By the way, you sound like Coyote Peterson

  45. Elizabeth Rose

    Elizabeth Rose

    10 päivää sitten

    your therapist has a therapist! Why? BC this is part of self care! Things can get confusing & when you have someone who can help you, help you- what's to be embarrassed about? If you have an ingrown toe, you head to the podiatrist. But if you have no motivation and you beat yourself up for everything and that's been going on for quite some time you would want to see someone who is trained in recognizing depression someone who has the training to see the bigger picture as it relates to your mental health. There should be zero stigma. Zero. Stigma. Brain = organ = can malfunction= see someone! 😍💙💗💙☺

  46. Brack Zackland

    Brack Zackland

    13 päivää sitten

    I’ve wondered for a long time why my body strives for balance & homeostasis. While my brain is self destructive & always turns to bad habits. I’m not a fan of the term “listen to my body.” Because my brain is part of my body & it almost always seems at odds with what would be healthy for me. This question preoccupies my thoughts constantly.

  47. Abhijna Deepak

    Abhijna Deepak

    13 päivää sitten

    Well I was pretty depressed when this was recommended

  48. Jesime Hartbarger

    Jesime Hartbarger

    13 päivää sitten

    Thank you, for standing up and speaking out. You have to take care of your health too, but you've allowed us to be reminded we're not alone. This is just as important to care of. As is our physical health. ❤

  49. Zofia Fraczek

    Zofia Fraczek

    14 päivää sitten

    Thank you for making this video about going to therapy and the importance of mental health! It is a crucially important topic and it would be great if more people could talk about it (especially when it comes to personal experiences) to help end the negative stigmatization of mental health problems. Most people aren't particularly shy to admit problems they have with their heart/lungs/gut/......, it should be the same with mental health.

  50. flamingo0123


    14 päivää sitten

    Good for you. Being very public facing would be difficult. Others tend to put these people on pedestals and villainize them for being human. At the end of the day, you have successfully created a FItop channel that informs and entertains many people and has more than once put a smile on my face. Thank you for your hard work.

  51. ZeriusPuro A Synth too

    ZeriusPuro A Synth too

    14 päivää sitten

    Been a solo one to traverse my own mind for years, but this video really does help me confirm my thoughts and helps me direct where I should be aiming towards. If someone doesn't like me, they don't like me. I don't wanna care about that anymore.

  52. pooja patankar

    pooja patankar

    14 päivää sitten

    Come here you🤗 You will always have us, no matter what 😘 Glad you spoke about it🙂

  53. Brianna Parton

    Brianna Parton

    15 päivää sitten

    I'm so proud of you @Dr.Mike It's really hard to fight the stigma on this topic but completely necessary. I'm currently taking a medical leave of absence from work for my mental health 😊 And I'm working very hard at reversing some of the negative thought patterns myself. Keep looking to the positive comments, soon it will be easier to filter out the negative. I've been at this for about 15years, you're not alone, and it will be hard but SO rewarding! ❤💪✌

  54. Pickaport


    15 päivää sitten

    Thanks Dr. Mike. I relate to a lot of this.

  55. Maycol Valcarcel

    Maycol Valcarcel

    15 päivää sitten

    Dr Mikw Ghosted? Then Im fucked up af xd

  56. Narmeen M.

    Narmeen M.

    18 päivää sitten

    What is your take on nootropics?

  57. DorkyAF


    18 päivää sitten

    pretty sure that spider quote is why they banned that spider friendly peppa pig ep here in australia dfkhggh

  58. Soma Nath

    Soma Nath

    18 päivää sitten

    Rightly said me too did a stupidity and latter when thought about felt guilty

  59. Cool Mamma Vaterlaus

    Cool Mamma Vaterlaus

    18 päivää sitten

    I'm in therapy too! Thanks for sharing!

  60. Es Jay

    Es Jay

    19 päivää sitten

    Biggest myth: therapy is ONLY for when you "need help"

  61. Michelle Rose

    Michelle Rose

    19 päivää sitten

    I needed this thanks mate!

  62. Ella Z

    Ella Z

    20 päivää sitten

    When doctor Mike says "bear""bear" lol so cute

  63. Adriyel Guarte

    Adriyel Guarte

    21 päivä sitten

    This is how I can't sleep First is after I remove my phone then suddenly I wanna use it again And if I decided to not use it and try to sleep I get bored Then I get itchy Then I get scared and think of scary stuff Then I feel like a cockroach is touching me Then If a cockroach does show up and it fly towards me My adrenaline will pop up run the flip if I touch me i will run like sonic the hedgehog Then after it go away My Eyes again Wide Open Then I think about death Then boom I use phone again to remove those stuff in my mind and repeat the process and boom until I don't feel my eyes become heavy I can't sleep. Lol

    • JopieH


      20 päivää sitten

      Sounds alot like anxiety to me

  64. Sean Toh

    Sean Toh

    22 päivää sitten

    Thank you so much Dr okouromi the herbal medicine you sent me worked perfectly well now I'm free from Cancer.

  65. the astig gamer

    the astig gamer

    23 päivää sitten

    please stop with "oh you think you are failure? look at this people who failed then became successful", they are smart and lucky. what are you telling us? that these guys are better than us? i know.

  66. Stefanie gebara

    Stefanie gebara

    23 päivää sitten

    I think its 50 shades of grey

  67. empyreanlove


    23 päivää sitten

    Great advice! These can be printed and be at hand for anyone having a bad day or doubting themselves 💜

  68. ljs02a


    23 päivää sitten

    Thank you for sharing! It makes me feel better knowing your real struggles too and that many different people have these issues as well! have been struggling with my mental health a lot and am about to start therapy. I have followed your FItop videos for over a year now and I really appreciate you! Love to watch them! Thank you!!

  69. Chi Lo

    Chi Lo

    25 päivää sitten

    I'm so happy for you that you're brave enough to go to therapy and tell us about it! sadly lots of people still see that as weakness but it isn't! it's the same as going to a doctor like you because you have a flu or broken something or whatever the only difference is that we can't see or touch mental health so people have problems to really be aware of it so I think it's really great, when people like you, who has so many followers and viewers, show that it can happen to everyone! and that it's totally okay to see a therapist! me, I'm in therapy for a long time and right now planing another stay at the psychiatristic clinic I'm totally a part of group 10 like you! a lot of people have that problem as they don't want to be arrogant it's reall difficult to get over those thoughts!

  70. Mar S

    Mar S

    25 päivää sitten

    99% of spider is harmless In Australia it's upside down, 99% of spiders will kill you in the most painfullest of ways!

  71. SUSANA Cuervo Agudelo

    SUSANA Cuervo Agudelo

    25 päivää sitten

    It is great that you spoke about this. Taking care of our mental health is something that gets discarded too often. Thank you for bringing this up for so many to see and have in their lives 😊

  72. CrocsNSocks


    25 päivää sitten

    The secret I taught myself a long time ago is to just not care. It's kinda like apathy with less steps. Someone doesn't like me? Whatever. This definitely doesn't apply to everyone and the the principle is easier than the practice, but it's just the way it is.

  73. earthfromspacejam


    25 päivää sitten


  74. peachy park

    peachy park

    26 päivää sitten

    5:52 " be kinder to yourself!"

  75. owen Llewellyn

    owen Llewellyn

    26 päivää sitten

    Just saying but number 7 legit happened to me... Being right was just as bad for my mental health though and still have issues with trust because of it. Even though I know it's not a reflection of my partner now and just my irrational worries and anxiety about that past situation.

  76. Yogev Horen

    Yogev Horen

    26 päivää sitten

    I am "feeling good" already 😉

  77. Amna Sheikh

    Amna Sheikh

    26 päivää sitten

    This is the first video I've watched where u didnt dance at the end.. Re u okay?

  78. Amna Sheikh

    Amna Sheikh

    26 päivää sitten

    Thanku Dr. Mike. I have been going through the roughest possible phase of life. No job, past traumas have really gotten the best of my relationships (my father is physically and emotionally abusive). And I cant really afford therapy.. But ur video really helped

  79. Christopher Kochis

    Christopher Kochis

    26 päivää sitten

    Thanks doc, the world is a complex place, and we have little control and that is very freeing.

  80. Emily Anderson

    Emily Anderson

    27 päivää sitten

    Thank you! I feel like I am a positive person but I struggle with some of these. At least with the thoughts that are directed towards myself. I also manage two different teams at work and we are fighting these mindsets on a daily basis!

  81. Lalchhanchhuahi Bawitlung

    Lalchhanchhuahi Bawitlung

    27 päivää sitten

    This's common specially for highly sensitive person like us.. appreciate your efforts!

  82. Zyanilue


    27 päivää sitten

    ok so your probably not going to notice me but I've been sick with something for 2 days (yesterday and today) I usually go outside to my back yard and swing I'm allergic to pollen as well, what's been happening is My throat, and Stomach Hurts and my Nose is all Stuffy I'm Coughing and Sneezing a lot (mostly coughing) can you please help me?

  83. Wymar Sane

    Wymar Sane

    28 päivää sitten

    Bill Gates is a _terrible_ example to use here. He didn't drop out of Harvard because he was failing, he left because he thought _it was too easy_ . Comparing somebody with self worth issues to somebody who was too good for Harvard is only going to make them feel worse.

  84. Angel Pedregosa

    Angel Pedregosa

    28 päivää sitten

    the fact that i posessed all these toxic thought patterns, I really find this helpful :)

  85. anormalking


    28 päivää sitten

    Ok, that was scary.. I was watching the video on the tablet, I noticed a little ant walking up my screen... then Dr. Mike decided to put a GIANT spider walking on the display and I genuinely freaked out😆

  86. Brittany Pietsch

    Brittany Pietsch

    28 päivää sitten

    A lifetime movie. Chuckled at that one.

  87. Marianne Vergara

    Marianne Vergara

    29 päivää sitten

    Had many bad experiences about office romance that lead me to avoiding it. It made me more socially awkward at work. At first it wasn't that bad limiting my interactions. But living in a country that values on excessive socialization, I always suffer the negative consequences. Until now, I still wanna perfect setting healthy boundaries.

  88. Anna Luksha

    Anna Luksha

    29 päivää sitten

    When you watch this video to try and actually focus on your mental health, but literally nothing helps because all you've done your entire life is hate yourself 🙃

  89. Amel The Best

    Amel The Best

    29 päivää sitten

    You just can't make a bad video 🥰

  90. Luxendarc Knight

    Luxendarc Knight

    29 päivää sitten

    Number 3 is something I really needed to hear. I’ve been having a tough time in college. Thank you so much for this.

  91. Xia Cheng

    Xia Cheng

    29 päivää sitten

    Thank you for making this video Doc💟 all your videos put a smile on my face and help me get through the day all the while learning something new. This vid in particular helps me see things more clearly about my mental health or such in general. Hope everything is going well on your end🤓👨🏻‍⚕️

  92. DIDI


    29 päivää sitten

    I'm happy you are talking about it, I have had therapy the last few months for depression and a burnout and it is so important to talk about and make it normal! Mental health and physical health are equally important 😉

  93. Paweenuch Thiangsuntia

    Paweenuch Thiangsuntia

    29 päivää sitten

    Wow I hit many of these negative patterns. 😅

  94. Sad_Bunny


    29 päivää sitten

    I know that you probably won’t see this but can you react to the video that gorgenotfound uploaded,it’s about being in a ice tub I think he could of got hypothermia and possibly worse Anyway have a nice day

  95. Lui Espiritu

    Lui Espiritu

    Uukausi sitten

    Mental health is as important as physical health.

    • Lui Espiritu

      Lui Espiritu

      Uukausi sitten

      It feels good seeing physicians promotes mental health.

  96. Brenda Rudman

    Brenda Rudman

    Uukausi sitten

    Excellent video.I'm guilty of all of those.This could help me to think more logically.

  97. Zion Gevers

    Zion Gevers

    Uukausi sitten

    i thought i was a human but according to Doctor Mike we're all Grey squares

  98. Nic G

    Nic G

    Uukausi sitten

    He lost me at the 50 second mark lol

  99. AxeTeam


    Uukausi sitten

    im saving this... i know i will be coming back to this video... a LOT. Thx doctor mike!

  100. Aaron Everett

    Aaron Everett

    Uukausi sitten

    Thank you Dr Mike. This video really helped me.